Speak Love

IMG_3758Love is the accurate estimate and adequate supply of another person’s needs.  I love this definition by my friend Dick Foth.  Read it again.  It’s maybe not how you would have defined it, is it?  We are usually asking, what can I GET out of this relationship?  But what if we were asking ourselves, what can I GIVE to this relationship?  It kind of changes everything.  Now before you get overwhelmed by the thought of what it would take to be that kind of friend, let me share with you one simple first step that God has been challenging me with recently.

Start speaking life-giving words.  Hebrews 13:3 says “But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today.”  What I’m reading here is that the only requirement for me to offer encouragement is… wait for it…  that it’s today.  Isn’t every day today? Everyone needs words of life spoken into them once in a while.   In fact, they make all the difference in the world.  Remember when Dorothy and her motley crew got to the end of the yellow brick road where they were supposed to meet the Great & Powerful Oz who could fix all of their problems?  But in the end, what did he give them?  A little encouragement.  They just needed someone to tell them that they had a heart of gold, that they were smart, that they were courageous.  There have been many times when I was feeling like a failure as a mom or as a wife, or like a terrible friend.  And people have spoken life-giving words into those dark places.  They accurately assessed my need for words of encouragement.

Words have life, girls!  When you speak something, it breathes.  If it’s negative, it will grow into something that rots & destroys.  (And that includes words that you speak about yourself).  If it’s encouraging, it will spread & sprout into something beautiful and healing.

XOXO,

Lora

How can you speak life into a friend today?  How can you speak life into your children?  How can you speak life into your spouse?  Or your co-worker?  After all, it is today!

LORA BATTERSON IS MARRIED TO MARK, WHO PASTORS A VIBRANT CHURCH IN THE DC METRO AREA CALLED THE NATIONAL COMMUNITY CHURCH.  TOGETHER THEY HAVE 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN.  SHE LOVES LIVING IN THE HEART OF CAPITOL HILL AND GOING OUT FOR COFFEE EVERY DAY OFF WITH HER HUSBAND.  SHE ALSO THINKS THAT THE FRENCH TOAST AT EASTERN MARKET IS THE BEST IN THE WORLD.  FOR MORE, YOU CAN FOLLOW HER ON TWITTER @LORABATTERSON.

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  1. Seriously Lora…this is such a great post and a powerful challenge to live by. I put a reminder on my phone a while ago that pops up twice a day that says “find the gold in someone” You wouldn’t think i’d need that kind of reminder, but life is busy and it’s always great to stop what I’m doing and take the time to speak life into someone around me.
    So LOVE this post…thanks! xxx

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  2. Great thoughts, Lora! Positive, uplifting words are more powerful and long-lasting than we could ever know.

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  3. To really understand the thought that when we speak something, it breathes, is so powerful! My desire is that every word I speak will be encouraging and life-giving to all I come in contact with (& even when speaking to myself)!
    (Looking forward to DC Sisterhood on Thursday night at DC Metro – always awesome and encouraging!)

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  4. Thank you, Lora! What a great definition of love! I am up for the challenge of continually offering encouragement to those around me!

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  5. So good! Thanks for this reminder! It can be really easy to get lazy with my words but being intentional about what you speak is so important!

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  6. Thank you, Lora! Such a great reminder. I can think of two people RIGHT NOW who I need to speak love into. This message coincides so beautifully with the CapCity “You make me crazy” series bc love is a choice… Day-to-day actions. The people in my life right now who need me to speak love into them the most are the ones who are continually disappointing me. But showing love and being intentional about relationships (back to P.Donna) is not about our feelings but what we can do for others.

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