Perfect, Divine Love

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My 9 year old daughter Kate came home from school yesterday upset because of a comment one of her best friends made in class.  Kate had worn a new pair of boots to school that she received for Christmas. Upon seeing them her friend remarked, “oh, no one wears Ugg boots anymore.” Kate was crushed! She had been so excited about them and couldn’t understand why her friend would respond that way. Now obviously this is typical 4th grade behavior, but I couldn’t help but think that as adults we can often have the same reaction to the successes and gains of others…maybe we rarely say it out loud, but what matters is the attitude of our hearts.  Are we “really” excited about that new Tory Burch purse on our friend’s arm? Or how about the promotion a neighbor received? Or the car our co-worker just bought?

In thinking on this months theme “one love”, I can’t help but think about Gods perfect, divine love. As we follow him we need to love as he does. He is the most perfect friend, our greatest fan, and our biggest cheerleader. John 15:12-13 says “This is My  commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.”

John the Baptist gives us a perfect example of this. When his followers came to him upset by the number of people going to Jesus rather than him to be baptized John responded,

“He who has the bride is the bridegroom; but the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice. Therefore this joy of mine is fulfilled.  He must increase, but I  must  decrease.” (John 3:29, 30 NKJV)

Wow! I want to be the kind of friend that contributes to and celebrates others accomplishments. I want their success and achievements to bring as much joy as my own.

 xoxo,

Jill

 

Have you ever failed at showing this kind of love toward a friend? Why? How can you do better?

JILL WHITLOW IS MARRIED TO CHARLIE, WHO PASTORS AN INCREDIBLE CHURCH IN ASHBURN, VA CALLED THE COMMUNITY CHURCH.  SHE LOVES CHASING AROUND THEIR 4 KIDS AND IN HER SPARE TIME SHE LOVES TO JOG, STARBUCKS CHAI TEA LATTES AND GOING TO THE MOVIES (JUST TO EAT THE POPCORN)!

 

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  1. Great post! It’s funny how we often live life as if there is only a limited amount of blessing to go around. We feel if someone else receives something, it is coming at our expense. That’s not true, though! God has enough to pour out on all of our lives more than we can contain. Pastors Dennis and Donna have always taught us that when someone else is blessed, just to be excited for them and see yourself as the next in line!

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  2. I absolutely LOVE this post. I was in that place where society had taught me that complimenting another woman was me admitting that I was less than that person in that respect. It was a very “catty” environment that is easy to see in retrospect was completely based on insecurity. Then I met God and all the amazing women that God had destined for me to learn from. I remember one time complimenting a co-worker on her outfit and instead of her being edified by it, she rejected it with a “you always say that though!” I felt completely invalidated and it caused me to shut down for a while because I was still dealing with rejection issues (story for another day, lol).

    Then, one day, I learned that I can’t be in control of another person’s response, but I CAN be in control over mine, that God has called us to be sisters, loving, edifying and cheering on one another and OH how good and natural it feels to do that. It feels good because it’s the right thing to do. So I’m trusting that even if a person doesn’t receive it right then and there, a seed has been sown and God will cause it to grow.

    I wish this kind of behavior ended with 4th graders, but there is so much insecurity in the world. Making it a purpose to counter that with the great love of God in practical ways like support and edification has amazing impact on those that are hurting. It’s definitely what the world is desperately seeking. How awesome is it to actually have the Answer.

    Thanks Jill for this post that lit a fire in me to be INTENTIONAL to be the LOVE today.

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  3. Jill, thank you for reminding us that we have an opportunity to show Christ through our words! I want to be that kind of friend!

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