One of the most beautiful gifts that God has given each of us is the gift of relationships. We are designed by God with the intent to be able to, and to need to, share our lives with both our Creator and with other people. As incredible as relationships can be, they can never function as the source of our fulfillment.
For the past several weeks our church has been on an incredible journey as we have discussed relationships, both romantic and platonic, and the practical, applicable and Biblical answers on how to have healthier, fulfilling relationships. Through the journey we have discovered that the key to having healthy relationships in life stems first and foremost in our relationship with our Creator. In order to have complete, whole relationships, we first need to have a healthy relationship with Jesus.
Relationships are meant to be fulfilling, but no relationship can produce complete fullness other than our relationship with Jesus. It is in Him that we discover who He is, who we are in Him, and our purpose. He alone can fill our hearts with the love and acceptance that we so desire. Once we are complete in Him, that wholeness can then overflow into all of the relationships in our lives, setting them up to be the healthiest and most fulfilling relationships they can be.
Let’s be honest ladies, we have all dreamed of that one day we will meet that perfect man, and that it will be then that we will feel complete and whole. Unfortunately that dream is a myth, and can actually be a detrimental expectation that robs us of what God intends for us in our relationships. No man will ever be able to complete you. No person will ever be able to fulfill you and make you feel whole. Our wholeness and completion comes only through Jesus, and it is after we are complete in Him that relationships can be healthy, satisfying, and add to the abundant life that Jesus desires for us.
Proverbs 4:23 charges us to “guard [our hearts] above all else, for it determines the course of [our lives].” (NIV, emphasis added) The condition of our heart determines and affects every area of our life. If our heart is complete in Jesus then every area of your life, including relationships, will be fulfilling and we will have a wholeness that cannot be shaken because it is founded on our Rock.
However, if Jesus is not enough for us in our heart, then that discontentment and dissatisfaction will seep into every area of our life. We will try to find fulfillment in relationships, material possessions, etc., but will only be setting ourselves up for disappointment because nothing can fill that void but Jesus. We can live our lives wandering from one thing to another, thinking that we still not have found what we are looking for, when in reality, He is standing right before us with arms wide open.
Jesus is enough for us. It is not cliché, nor is it just a theological idea. It is reality. We can find everything that we need in Him, and that includes fulfillment in the area of our relationships. When we seek Him first and allow Him to pour His love into our broken hearts, softening it and healing it, we encounter fullness that we cannot even fathom. Allow Jesus to complete you and make you into the beautiful woman that He has created you to be, inside and out.
Heather Giroux Co- Pastors The City Church with her best friend and husband Michael Giroux. She loves family time with her husband and 4 boys including caddying for her boys’ in golf tournaments. In her free time she likes TRX training as much as she can! For more, you can follow her on Twitter @heathermgiroux