Unmasking Your True Self
You’re a fan of Pumpkin Spiced Lattes? Incredible! Me too!
You got stuck on the X2 bus this week? No way! Me too!
Your favorite color is SPARKLES? Get out-of-town! Me too!
You could watch re-runs of “Keeping up with the Kardashians” for days on end? What? …. any one? Oh, ok….Just me then.
How many times have you found yourself in conversation with another person and looked for opportunities to say,
“What? You do… me too!”
It only takes a few minutes of conversation to discern that we as women are constantly seeking out connection points. It’s what makes life fun and is the basis for many friendships. Yet, true connection, as it turns out, often requires much more than a similar Starbucks order. In fact, real connection can be hard to come by.
So what is it that keeps us from truly connecting with those around us?
I recently heard Brene Brown, a Researcher/Story Teller, give a TED Talk on this very topic. She said that, “The one thing that keeps us from connection is the belief that we are, at our core, unworthy of connection. ” She went on to define shame as the fear of disconnection and the belief that there is something about us, that if other people see it, will not want to connect with us.
I don’t think I’m good enough… beautiful enough…skinny enough…smart enough… ____ enough. Fill in the blank. We’ve all felt it a million times before.
So what do we do as a result?
We artfully construct beautiful, ornate and deeply deceitful masks.
We live our lives from behind these masks and yet, we wonder why we lack the connection we so deeply crave. We search for it and often settle for a cheap “Starbucks order” level of connection instead of the deep heart-to-heart kind we were designed for.
The thing is, in order for connection to happen we have to allow ourselves to be seen… really seen. We have to be willing to remove the mask and let those around us see our true selves.
We have to be willing to be vulnerable.
God created each and every one of us for relationship. First and foremost, with Him. Secondly, with the people he placed in our world. He never intended for us to be alone. When sin entered the world in the Garden of Eden, the first result was separation and shame. Adam and Eve hid. They created masks.
The truth is though, we don’t have to live that way any more! Jesus came so that we could experience true and deep connection. Because of who He is and what He has done for us, we can be secure in His love. It is only out of that place that we can truly be vulnerable and real with who He created us to be.
Today is not the only day that people choose to parade around in masks, however today you and I can choose that it will be our last.
You were created unique and inspired. Let the world see your beauty! As you do, you will be amazed at the true connections and friendships you will gain along the way. After all, this journey is so much better… together!